A PASS ON LEARNING LIFE’S LESSONS
This is an article by Dorothy, a dear friend who has aged, not only wisely and gracefully, but vigorously and enthusiastically, as she has lived her entire life.
ME? AN OLD LADY?
I remember the first time I realized I was an “old lady.” I was at a gym and someone said, “That old lady . . . .”. I realized they were talking about me! Really? Old Lady? I laughed inside. I found it amusing that I was now an old lady- I had never thought of myself as one, but at that moment I saw that the body was. Well, OK. It happens to most of us.
How do you get over the stigma of being old? Old in American society = bad somehow. Look at all the advertising that goes into “being young.” Do you see any ads that promote the idea of “being old”? Even old people in ads look young with white or grey hair.
How do I stay young even when I’m an old lady. or should I want to? I think it’s a good time of your life. You have or had a chance to look over what you did right and what you did wrong, and you have or had a chance to examine your true values- whatever they may be.
DECADES OF FIGURING IT OUT. I DID IT RIGHT!!!!
For me, I spent my youth attempting to become a musician and failed utterly. I gave it up for about 40 years. Now I’m playing flute again and I’m loving it. This time I’m succeeding and meeting the goals I had set a long time ago. What’s the difference? Experience and life lessons. I’m in much better shape mentally and spiritually than I was then. I have some clue as to what it takes to become successful, to achieve the goals I only dreamed about before.
I wanted to run my own business from my home. I did that a bit earlier, but didn’t quite have the money or the resources to pull it off then. Now I still don’t have the money or the resources to pull it off, but it is happening. Why? Because I have the life lessons, the time and the intention to make it happen- which I didn’t have enough of earlier in my life.
You now know what works for your body- what is interesting to you, who you want to be friends with and who you don’t, what groups you want to be part of, etc. When you are younger, you are still working all of these things out. I recently was going through some old boxes and each box held a particular moment of time in my life. I re-looked at all the decisions I had made then, how I felt, what the situation was . . . and each time I was refreshed to find things that I did right, that really were good decisions on my part. My ability to communicate to someone to right a situation, or some art I had created, a thank you note I had received, etc.
It brings you to the present. How do you use these life lessons and gains to continue from now going forward? I would say the key is to be true to yourself, your goals, your interests, your friends, your significant other. Life is being part of life- you just have to go out and continue to participate, doing whatever it is you like to do. So, happily, an old lady.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]